When someone says something that's rude or offensive about someone else, I have no problem speaking up in their defense. I don't like racism, disrespecting people less fortunate than ourselves or unjust behavior. Basically, I believe we all deserve to be treated fairly and as a result I will often stand up for the underdog.
And yet, when someone says something insulting directed at me, I am usually so speechless I say nothing in response. Mostly I am in shock that anyone would say something so incredible. And because I am in a state of disbelief they don't get a response. And they get away with it.
Later it just makes me angry. And whilst I hate confrontation, I just wish I was capable of responding at the time and calling the offender on their behavior. Saying something witty and sharp. To put them in their place.
I wish I could put them on the spot and confront them.
And tell them they suck.
Either that, or give them a quick sharp slap across the face.
5 comments:
I am alot like you Cinta, i don't do well with confrontation, even when someone else is being mistreated. My response is just to flee. Well, unless it's one of my children and then the mother lion comes out.
I am exactly the same. It's such a debilitating feeling, going blank, stunned like a deer in the headlights, in the face of an insult or rude comment. Just know that when it comes down to it, they are not a nice person. You are!
I so often come out and call it, and more so since I've become a teacher; "That is NOT appropriate, and I will not tolerate it in my classroom!"
Sometimes I regret the fuss or awkwardness that can ensue, But as much as it causes me problems sometimes, I'm glad that I don't let things go by. People are sometimes so staggeringly stupid, ignorant or mean, they do need a good kick up the bum!!
And who insulted you? Just let me at em!.....
Isn't that crazy - i'm also so very similar. I wish I could think up witty comments on the spot in the face of rudeness, but it just doesn't happen!
There are some awesome "come backs" I've managed to come up with 24 hours or so after the initial comment.
I wish, sometimes, that I had a time machine to be able to use those comments.
Good luck with that one...
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